If my Son Could Only Learn One Thing from How I Live and Train…

If my son Bennett could only take away one lesson from the way I live, train, and take care of myself—it wouldn’t be about strength, speed, or aesthetics.

It would be this: How you care for your body is how you care for your life.

The Real Reason I Train

I don’t train just to be fit. I train to be fully here—present, grounded, and ready to show up in every role I care about most: father, partner, coach, and man.

When I lift, I’m not chasing ego. When I run, I’m not outrunning insecurity. When I prioritize sleep, mobility, recovery, and nutrition—it’s not about control. It’s about respect.

Respect for this body I’ve been given. Respect for the people who rely on me. Respect for time, which moves faster than I ever expected once I became a dad. I want Bennett to grow up understanding that discipline isn’t punishment. It’s a form of love.

What I Hope He Sees

I don’t care if he becomes an athlete.
I don’t care if he ever counts macros or deadlifts twice his bodyweight.

But I hope he sees this:

• That his body is a gift—and it’s worth protecting.

• That movement is medicine—not a chore.

• That how you train says something about how you live.

• That showing up for yourself—on the hard days, especially—is where real strength lives.

I hope he learns that high performance isn’t about pushing harder all the time. It’s about knowing when to push, when to pause, and when to pivot. I want him to know that rest is part of the work. That presence beats performance. That you don’t have to prove anything to be powerful.

Legacy Over PRs

One day, he might look back and remember the workouts we did together, the hikes we took, the ice baths I dragged him into just for fun. But more than anything, I hope he remembers how I lived.
How I prioritized play. How I made space for joy. How I didn’t burn out chasing the next thing, but stayed rooted in the life I was already lucky to have. Because my ultimate goal isn’t to be the fittest guy in the room. It’s to be the kind of man who’s still strong, vibrant, and full of energy when Bennett is older—so I can hike, bike, ski, and dance at his milestones. So I can model what it looks like to age with strength, grace, and purpose.

Final Thought

If Bennett could only learn one thing from watching me live and train, I hope it's this:

Take care of your body not to impress others, but to be fully present in your own life.

That’s the performance legacy I want to leave.